Age does matter in relationships because if your young and dating someone a couple years older then what you are. Maturity is a big factor in serious relationships.
If your a girl and dating someone older the guy could take advantage of you or abusive you just because you are younger.
An advantage to having someone older than you is that they know more and have knowledge and experience in love and know what it’s like to be hurt or left. They are mature enough to know about having a commitment and are serious in aspects that really matter in relationships. In the other hand, In the society today, there are many couples who have a big age gap between them
. There are men who have younger wives and women who have younger husbands. For men predominantly, they find younger age in the opposite sex as somewhat attractive. For most young women who seek older men, it is quite common that they’re looking for maturity and confidence as well. Oftentimes, they seek someone who is older because they would want someone who can understand them better and perhaps
guide them as well since older men have more experience in life.
I believe that you should be close and age and if your younger then 18 you shouldn't be dating someone that ins't in your high school.
I would like to take this first round to clear which side I'm on and to dispute some of my opponent's arguments, as follows:
1. I agree that maturity is a serious factor in relationships, but would like to point out that it is not nessacarily determind by age.
Levels of Maturity - Immature individuals tend to be funnier and more exciting to be around, but when it comes to the important things - sometimes you can be left disappointed. Sometimes, different levels of maturity can be the deciding factor between your
relationship making it or breaking under the pressure.
For example, a fifty-year-old and a twenty-year-old could be in a relationship and at the same maturity level.
2. If you're in a relationship with a guy or girl that takes advantage of you or abuses you, it makes no difference what you're situation is, they'll do that no matter what, and that's not a good person to be in a relationship with anyway.
In conclusion, the choices you make in your life are solely yours. Age shouldn’t really matter for as long as they both are mature; in addition they had to have the same goals in their lives and care about each other. Always have a positive attitude in your relationship and try to be as understanding as you can be. However, a relationship is like a boat in the ocean and I they can’t work together they cannot land the boat. Moreover, the thing that matters the most in a relationship is the love between couples
. You can be in a relationships with a person that takes advantage of you of abuses you; it makes no difference what you age is, they will do that no matter what the age is. Eventually, “Age is an issue of mind over matter, if you don’t mind it doesn’t matter” -Mark Twain.
Besides, the only thing that should matter in a relationship is love, and if they truly love each other, nothing else should matter.
I agree with your argument that love should matter in the relationship but if you are dating someone much older then you they can have a lot of emotional baggage.
Age shouldn’t determine whether or not two people are allowed to love each other and be with one another. Maturity is a big deal when it comes to age. Although that may stop people from loving each other, people learn from their mistakes and will eventually be mature enough. It shouldn’t matter
because when you’re with someone you love; you will learn with them and will have experience on how you should act and behave, etc….In the article “Does Age
Matter in Relationships” by J Francis, he says “Many may argue that with age comes maturity.
A lot of problems or emotional baggage that can drag you down. The verbally abuse of their actions, if they are younger the older person most likely won't want to listen to what they have to say or take advice from someone who is younger then them.
It is entirely your choice whether you decide to date someone considerably older or younger than yourself. To some age isn’t a significant factor in dating, while others have a strong opinion and will only date people the same age or within a few years of their age. It is a personal choice. There are no rules to say you shouldn’t date someone
much older or younger than yourself, but be prepared for possible judgment from others if there is a considerable age gap.
The maturity of the the two people is definitely a main part. If there is a huge dating and their sexual active. Age matters and vary is relationships. If the girls to young people may take that as the guy she wants to have sex with her and she will get a hard time about it. The girl might be to young to be able to handle it all, and it could lead to many difficult times in the relationships.
If one has to offer advice to a person considering a long-term commitment to an older or younger partner, some reflection on the future should feature prominently. While a 45 year old, young-at-heart man might appeal to a 20 year old woman right now, he might not be so attractive in 20 years time when he is retired and lacks energy. Whatever opinions might be, couples with large age discrepancies will continue to make choices based on what works for them, taking into consideration levels of commitment, maturity and, of course, love. Age should be considered like any other compatibility factor in relationships. The age old adage, “love is blind” might still hold value for some.
I don't believe just because you like someone that much and they are that much older then you that it will work. It's harder if there is such a huge age difference.
Emotional Baggage-Painful memories, mistrust and hurt carried around from past sexual or emotional rejection.
Age matters in relationships in two different contexts. First, it matters because relationship involves understanding. Understanding requires great deal of wisdom and maturity; understanding is considered a gift of maturity which can be achieved by going through long years of life experiences (Nooshin, 2009). When partners are mature enough to understand the complexities of life it is easier for them to keep the relationship intact, no matter what challenges they face. This is because the mature partner basically knows his/her way around in almost every situation. On the other hand, age matters in a relationship because of social perception
. There are instances when age gap is an issue when it comes to relationships; generally people are not used to seeing a couple that looks like a granddaughter and grandfather kissing in the park. However, regardless of age, relationship is essentially the result of a mutual understanding. It involves the most universal feeling that is love. Age gap in a relationship is not a matter of morality, but rather a justification of one
of the characteristics of love and that is “love transcends all boundaries” (Greaves, 2011) regardless of age, race and gender. Therefore, age does not matter in a relationship.
1. "A lot of problems or emotional baggage that can drag you down."- Anyone can have emotional baggage, it's not just older people. A younger person can be at a higher emotional level than the older person (like I said before), and have more emotional baggage.
According to the recent studies on life expectancy, women tend to benefit less from marriage irrespective of whether her spouse is younger or older than her (Science Daily). Sven Drefahl of the Max Planck Institute for Demographic Research in Germany, concludes that it is socially and psychologically most beneficial for a woman to marry a man of exactly the same age as herself. The reverse is true for men - the younger the wife, the longer the husband will live.
2. "If they are younger the older person most likely won't want to listen to what they have to say or take advice from someone who is younger then them."- That "dominant partner" struggle is present in any relationship-whether the partner is smarter, more mature, or older, there's one in every relationship. They just have to overcome it.
3. The second of my opponent's paragraphs I had already explained in the first round. (See maturity)
1. The bottom line is, every relationship has things to overcome, but if they can overcome them, it only makes the relationship stronger.
Despite such scientific studies, men and women have consistently chosen younger or older partners for centuries and have enjoyed fulfilled relationships. It has often been the norm in many societies for older men to prefer younger women as their life partners, and it is now increasingly common for women to marry younger men. Some embrace this behaviour as an off-shoot of the Women’s Liberation Movement and women expressing their new-found freedom of choice. Others in favour of patriarchy continue to condemn these women and men for going against societal norms
2. And believe it or not, relationships with age gaps are very common these days. The way you were raised just determines if you accept it or not.
"There is no such thing as young or old, only younger and older. You will always have someone younger than you and you will always have someone older than you.
But when there is a large age gap, this is when a relationship can face difficulties. With an age gap there is always going to be lifestyle differences. A younger person may enjoy nights out with their younger friends and have no interest in starting a
serious relationship, whereas, their older partner might be at an age where they want to settle down and spend quiet time alone with them.
The younger lover can be immature. Sometimes, young lovers are such perfectionists that they seek all sorts of things that you can't give. This is why, if you want to go out with someone younger, make sure that he or she is mature for his or her age.
But sometimes, there are people who are far more mature than their age. That is why although they have partners who are either way older or younger than them, they're still able to adjust to any situation their relationship might be in.
The life experience is definately a big part of the relationship. Usually by mid to late 20's you have basically seen most everything in your life a time or two. 18 year olds, for their own sake, I hope have not seen most of that.
1. There will always be someone older or younger but it's usually not over anywhere between 3-5 years difference.
The most important factor to understand is that although our bodies will show our age to a certain degree, age is most significant when it relates to maturity. Whether you find yourself to be the younger or the older person in a relationship, take into account whether your maturity levels match.
You may find in life that a fifty year old and a thirty year old can be very similar in regard to their maturity level. This all depends on their life experiences, personal outlooks and goals.